- In these media there is no link between people, and their relationship has not passed the tests that a true friendship should sustain: Juan Pablo García Acosta, from the FES Iztacala of the UNAM
Some users in the networks have hundreds or thousands of "friends", and with that same word anyone is named, when in reality there is no link between people, and their relationship has not passed the tests that a true friendship should support, affirmed Juan Pablo García Acosta, academic of the Faculty of Higher Studies (FES) Iztacala of the UNAM.
The professor explained that false friendships are built in these media because it is difficult to establish real ties. “You couldn't even call it 'virtual friendship', because there simply isn't a union; in any case, they are acquaintances ”.
Within the framework of the International Friendship Day, designated by the General Assembly of the United Nations on July 30, the university student explained that beyond any attribute, friendship has to do with an affective commitment, and implies values as loyalty, solidarity, commitment and sincerity; it feeds and grows through continuous and reciprocal treatment.
In 2011, the international organization established the commemoration "with the idea that friendship between peoples, countries, cultures and individuals can inspire peace initiatives and present an opportunity to build bridges between communities."
The UN reports that the world faces challenges, crises and dividing forces —poverty, violence, human rights violations— that threaten peace, security, development and social harmony. "To address these problems, it is necessary to tackle the causes that provoke them, promoting and defending solidarity, which can manifest itself in many ways, such as friendship."
Good and bad friends
Friendships can be divided into good and bad, based on whether or not they are beneficial for those involved, García Acosta stressed.
“Every link has some consequence; if from it we receive favorable elements for our personal growth, we can classify it as 'good', but if the result is alterations, dysfunctions or affectations to our emotional state and behaviors, it is a bad friendship ”.
The main attribute of a friend is that we choose him based on affinities and empathy. It is a relationship that is built over time; love, loyalty, solidarity and sincerity are tested day by day, event after event, it has different tests that define whether it is strengthened or diluted, he detailed.
"Life is made up of moments, and when satisfactions and sadnesses are shared, the bond called friendship is built, and those moments tend to actually be the true tests."
If there is no harmony, respect, and values such as gratitude, loyalty and trust are not present, the construction of friendship is undermined, which must be reciprocal.
García Acosta indicated that humans are social beings and we need satisfiers from the relationship with our peers. “In a friendship, for example, we find support and emotional satisfaction, which come to strengthen self-esteem. When we don't have friends there is a void in the social environment ”.
Friendship, the university student concluded, is fundamentally sharing, and building it between people is the initial way to build peace, the common good, and support between human beings; scaling it up to larger groups, to societies and nations, is the spirit of this commemoration.
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