Frustration, impatience, or stress can lead to irritability. Learn how to nip it in the bud with the right tools.
Euphoria
Euphoria can take us away from reality, making us believe we are super powerful and inhibiting alarm signals, pushing us to precipitation and pride. Asier Uribeechebarria, thus recognizes it: “Just launched the company, it is necessary to learn to manage the euphoria of the i got it, excessive security, which leads you to make incorrect decisions (especially spending) when in reality you are only at the beginning of a long journey ". Riera also speaks of "excessive infatuation with your idea, which prevents you from listening to criticism and reduces your permeability." In addition to the euphoria, the entrepreneur is subjected to multiple emotional influences that, when poorly managed, can derail the project: "A heartbreak, a complicated family situation, a health scare, a burning house ... The entrepreneur's emotional state affects to your company ”, acknowledges Alexandra Maratchi. And that can also lead to another consequence: the confusion between personal and professional life. “The dedication and love you have towards your project pushes you to live everything in an intense and visceral way. And that can lead you to blur the barrier between the personal and the professional ”, laments Gabriel Pazos, founder of Milingual.com.
How to get over it. Living with success is more difficult than with failure, because it forces you to manage your ego. It is important to remain humble and listen to everyone. Resort to some kind of coach or partner That helps you to question things, that makes you reflect and, if you don't have it, invent an invisible mentor, a decision maker, with whom to share your doubts. It is a way to develop the much needed inner conversation. And don't forget that euphoria is linked to overflowing energy, so get used to channeling it with an emotional short-circuit like counting to ten before making a key decision.
Anguish
“Suddenly and by force majeure, I found that at the age of 46 I had to reinvent myself again and leave home to immerse myself in the business ecosystem. My life took a 180 degree turn and, with practically no time to digest it, I went from taking care of my 12 children to launching myself together with my husband to create the Doce Peces company and try to combine it with my day to day life. I felt overwhelmed and anguished because the panorama was complicated, I saw the unattainable horizon and each step too high. There was no other option. It took me a long time to digest the new situation we had to face, but there was no other alternative ”, recalls Raquel Suárez, co-founder of Doce Peces, a company specializing in the distribution of fresh food at home.
How to get over it. “I leaned on my family and I became a learner of patience and self-improvement. I discovered that looking at fears head-on is the best way to transform fears into goals and new objectives, ”he explains. Christopher Pommering has a very interesting tactic to overcome those moments of heartbreak when it occurs to me “to think about the adventure in which I have gotten myself. I try to visualize a figure that has always helped me a lot: 750,000. They are the hours you have in your life calculating that you live 81 years. I have already lived half of this, so it is important to appreciate the importance of each hour, to understand that life is very short and that it is better to do ambitious and very large projects or at least try, even if you fail. And what better way to do it in a sector like education, destined to change the world ”.
Shame and misunderstanding
The first feeling has a lot to do with the fear of ridicule and with the social image. Daniel Olivera is forceful about the importance of social pressure: “The key to an entrepreneur who has a magnificent product is that he must sell it or sell it and he must train himself in public speaking and in developing sales techniques. It often happens that, because they are very confident in their product, they make the mistake of losing control and not tempering their momentum. The consequence is a resounding failure, not so much because it has a bad product but because of a bad presentation. Van Gogh had a great product, but he died poor, because he was unable to sell a painting ”. And for some it may cost more than others, as Pérez de la Coba explains: “From the moment you start a business, you must be able to communicate the ideas you have in your head, both to the team and to the market or investors. In my case, as I am very visual, it is difficult for me to tell things in a conceptual way ”.
How to get over it. There are several techniques. “In my case, being aware of that problem. Now i do brainstorming and then I try to build a story, ”explains the CEO of Shazura. Other techniques that will help you overcome the shame and fear of public speaking is to prepare yourself very well. speech: build yourself a small speech where you explain very well what your business model is, what your added value is and who you and your team are, to be able to expose it naturally when the occasion comes. And convince yourself that you are the best: conviction and enthusiasm are transmitted and spread to the environment.
Abandonment and betrayal
“For me, without a doubt the hardest emotional moment is when a colleague leaves the project. Personally, I think the team is something very important. I know how to do very little, so I depend a lot on my colleagues. Also, my projects are much more than a job; They are my life, so my team is like a family and, when a colleague decides to leave the project, you lose a very important person. But you also have the danger of losing faith in the project, as has happened to your partner. My heart breaks, ”says Taig Mac Carthy, co-founder of Gik Live, creators of the first blue wine to hit the market, Gik Blue. Sira Pérez de la Coba also speaks of a much more visceral feeling, betrayal: “It has been difficult for me to distinguish people who can be trusted from those who are not. That has happened to me with partners and with employees. And it is essential to learn that these betrayals do not affect you in your daily dealings with other people "
How to get over it. “In my case, I am always the last to abandon a project. It is a rule that I have applied to almost all of my ventures. It is more difficult than it looks. On the other hand, I try to maintain a friendly relationship with that person. Even if I have lost a partner, I can still have a friend. And I always keep the door open ”. Sira talks about putting your life in order: “Often, you have to brake because you are continually on alert, in tension and you have to learn to relax and slow down. I gained 20 kilos from stress, betrayal and frustration. Now I have managed to reduce them thanks to sport ”.
Anger and irritability
Talking about anger in our entrepreneurs is perhaps using bigger words. But there is no doubt that the frustration, impatience, stress or discouragement that we have talked about in previous sections can end up leading to situations of anger or, at least, of your little sister, irritability. It is a problematic state because, like euphoria, it leads to mental blocks that lead to hasty and ill-considered decisions. In this case, it carries the added problem of affecting interpersonal relationships.
How to get over it. It is usually more present in the initial stages of the venture or at critical moments (sales drops, problems with partners ...) and has a lot to do with mismanagement of problems and impulsiveness. Anger is an emotion that is triggered suddenly, while irritation is usually caused by a repetitive situation. Irritation can lead to anger, but not the other way around. It is important to identify in both cases what is the problem that triggers any of the stages and to tackle them.
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